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Three Steps to Powerful Decision Making

And a few reasons why you are brilliant at it already!

I’ve just retaken a personality test that I did some months ago. Not to worry, I am still firmly set in the space of introversion:)

A key takeaway for me from the results of this current test is that my decision-making has improved.

But before I give you this three-step process, I want to start by telling you why you are already an awesome decision-maker.

Here goes!

  1. Micro Decisions

You start making conscious decisions the moment you open your eyes in the morning.

Each micro decision you make gets you through your day. Making your first cup of coffee; your thoughts and actions while you are getting ready for work; getting into your car; doing the shopping; dropping the kids off at school; doing your incredible work.

These are all micro-decisions, and we often forget that they are decisions because they have become part-and-parcel of your daily process.

So, take some time today to stop.

Stop – what are you thinking? How are you feeling? Are you worried? Concerned? Happy? Comfortable?

Stop and observe.

2. Your decisions have shaped who you are

Take a look at your life up to this point.

Yes, there might very well be low points and things that you might regret or feel sorry or sad about.

However, when you position yourself into a space of gratitude for everything that has come about – whether you flourished or learnt a lesson, your decisions have carved out your life.

Your life is a reflection of you.

This might be a sobering thought for some of us. If so, your decisions that you make today then can be an epic way to repurpose your intentions and move you into a space where you are able to flourish.

What are you going to decide to do today?

3. There are no good or bad decisions

Regret.

I used this word to discuss a past decision that I had made. My friend lovingly reminded me that regret has no place in our past decisions.

Since past decisions cannot be undone, they must be seen as points along a journey. A journey that has brought you here to this place.

If that is a sobering thought and you are not altogether comfortable with your space at this moment, then another decision – one based on learning from that regret, can make every difference to your onward journey.

We make decisions every second of the day.

What are you going to decide to do today?

I made a decision that changed my life

I decided to go on pilgrimage and walk the Camino de Santiago.

When I started walking, I didn’t realise that I was carrying with me such immense grief. I was aware that my mood affected my life and my relationships, but I had never considered that I was suffering grief.

It seems so obvious to me now.

My decision to walk the Camino Frances saved my life. It allowed me to re-discover my courage and to face the loss of my brother, my grandparents, my best friend and my parents.

The beautiful gift of time that I had given myself gave me space to consider my own goals and my own dreams, and it changed my thought around how I was going to live the rest of my life.

My decision to go on pilgrimage was the first decision of many that have now shaped who I am.

We have to decide who we are, and what our primary purpose is, in order to thrive, and not only survive.

What are you going to decided to do today?

Now onto what has improved my decision-making skills.

Since I am an introvert and I use both judging and sensing to make my decisions. This might be somewhat different for you.

However, since I have taken to using my own coaching tools and techniques that I have learned on myself in addition to my clients, I believe that my thought process has developed because of my increased overall confidence.

This three-step process is ideal when you are facing challenging situations, and a decision must be made.

  1. Define the challenge

By this, I suggest that you really give it a good assessment.

  • What are the facts;
  • What has worked before and can you apply this positive outcome;
  • What hasn’t worked;
  • Who can you count on to help you – consider your outer resources;
  • How can you overcome this yourself – consider your inner resources;
  • Who do you know that has faced a similar challenge to support you through this moment.

Once you have clearly assessed what needs to be done, and who can help you you are 80% of the way to making a well-formed decision.

2. Consider all possibilities

As human beings when we are faced with difficult decisions as a result of situations or circumstances we often resort to the worst-case scenario.

This is absolutely great!

Using our intuition and considering the facts together, we are energised towards finding a workable solution and then making well-formed decisions around the challenge.

Considering all possibilities, even the nasty ones, allows you to make short-term and actionable decisions to get you moving forward. That forward movement will empower you through those challenges even when, at the outset, they seem insurmountable.

3. Consider the consequences

My go-to question to myself, when I am at this point is:

“What’s the worst that will happen?” That worst-case scenario aspect of decision making.

I often find myself writing up a “pros vs cons” list. It’s funny how my “pros” are always longer.

It’s because, I believe, that we know intuitively what to do, it is only our limiting beliefs that often get in our way.

It’s very helpful to consider the consequences from both angles:

  • What will happen if I don’t make this decision?
  • What will happen if I do make this decision?

Ask yourself how will this decision, whether you make it or not, impact your loved ones. Those people who count on you.

What are you deciding to do today?

If there are no challenges you are being faced with today, observe your thinking and contemplate this statement:

Thoughts are real forces.

This is the first law of the mind, as described by John Kehoe.

If you believe that thoughts are real forces, what are your thoughts about?

If you need to change them are you deciding today to be happier, more fulfilled, more successful, more purpose-driven, or will you decide that the status quo is ok for you right now.

Either way, there is no right or wrong decision, as long as you remember that every decision shapes our lives.

Our lives are a reflection of ourselves.

What are you deciding today?

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Four Steps To Overcoming Fear

Let’s talk about fear for a little bit.

We all have it from time to time. We all have been debilitated as a result of it, at one time or another. Some of us may struggle with it daily.

It’s part and parcel of what makes us human.

Never forget that – we have and experience fear because we are human!

I have written about fear before and have explained its purpose and meaning. If you missed this blog on how Jimmy Chin is my “fear guru”, it’s worth a read.

Today though, I will give you four steps towards overcoming your fear, but first, I want to start with this awesome quote.

I am starting here because, in a nutshell, the only way to overcome fear is to face it head-on.

Tony Robbins : Dance with fear

Face it, or dance with it!

  1. Find out what this fear is

What is it specifically that you are scared of? Is there a time of day or a place that this fear might raise its nasty head? In what situation might this fear present itself?

Be super specific about understanding this fear.

Let me give you my own example.

At the beginning of my journey into the online space, I was rearing and tearing to go! Nothing was going to stop me.

Fear did though.

I was so busy learning new skills in my newfound career of entrepreneurship. I used this excuse to be productive around learning to avoid taking action in my business.

You see, it was never about the perceived lack of knowledge because we learn as we go, don’t we? When I was honest with myself, I was afraid to be seen online.

What would my friends and family say? What would my school friends think? What would my past colleagues and peers think about me?

The truth is, I have had positive feedback from all of these people who I was so worried about. Another truth is that if I hadn’t received positive feedback, my fear was never about them but always about me and my own belief in what I was doing.

What I am doing.

2. Embrace the fear

When you have been honest about the fear, don’t take a step back from it because it is genuine. Please don’t dismiss it, and certainly don’t retreat from it.

Have a dance with it, as Tony Robbins suggests, because whether people love you, hate you or are on the fence about you, you will always draw your tribe to you.

I firmly believe that.

When I went online and started to become more visible, with my own face showing up, nothing about my reality really changed much.

Yes, inside, I was on this magnificent high because I had moved a step forward to my personal goals. Even more incredibly, I started to show up more authentically and more productively for people who I wanted to serve.

Fear is a natural reaction, and it wants to serve you by protecting you and keeping you safe. In my reality, though, it would have held me back, and if I were to think of a ‘worst-case scenario, my fear of showing up online would not have killed me.

I can’t think of anything worse than that.

3. Action – its always about action!

Think of yourself on the very first day of work. For me, it was in a bank.

At my young age of 17, I started working in the autoteller department in a large bank in South Africa. I was entrusted with loads of cash and a duty to replenish these machines daily.

I was scared to leave the relative safety of school. I was scared to work with people I didn’t know. I was scared of many things.

It was absolutely new, and I had no idea about the expectations placed on me directly out of school.

But I learned. I grew into that role and developed skills that were a brilliant foundation for me.

The fear subsided, and I started to enjoy the work, and as I progressed in my corporate career, it was a roller coaster of fear and overcoming fear.

Much the same as my journey into entrepreneurship.

The critical thing to remember about your own progress in your respective careers and your own personal journeys is that it took and takes action to kill that fear monster.

Plain and simply – action.

4. Reinforce your new feeling

The final step, now that you have specified your real fear embraced and had a dance with it and taken action around that fear, stop.

Stop and let that new powerful feeling take over. Remember this moment and how it feels. Never forget this feeling.

Reinforcing your newfound feeling is the momentum that you will need when you are faced with another fear. It is, after all, a cycle of sorts. As you level up, as you take on new challenges, as you step into the unknown, fear will always be there to try to keep you safe.

It’s a natural tendency for us as humans.

For me, I have this massive sense of freedom as I step into pockets of fear and overcome them. It is also never as scary as I thought going into the ring with fear.

A very important aspect of fear to always remember is this:

If you were to sit down with many folks who talk about their fears, I would suggest that it would be common to hear of their fear of rejection, embarrassment, failure, success, disappointment, and the unknown.

Its a beautiful thing because it what makes us all human.

F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real

F.E.A.R = Find. Embrace. Action. Reinforce

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Five Steps to Self-Worth

Oh, I have self belief in buckets, as I am sure that you do to!

However, consider those times when your resolve has been shaken. Perhaps your confidence has wavered a little as you are starting on a new venture, or you are setting off into the “unknown.”

Self-worth is described as one’s own value of being a human being. That’s pretty powerful when you think about it.

There was a time when I questioned my purpose. My direction had been set off-kilter, and I realised that my self-belief was very different to having a sense of self-worth.

These are the steps I used to get me to a place where I could support and emphasize my value that I had to share with the world:

  1. What is the one thing you can do better than anyone else?

This is that thing that makes us all unique. It is our USP – our Unique Selling Proposition.

We frame this question in this way so that it alters your mindset from the get-go.

For my whole life, I have tended to be a “people watcher.” One of my favourite things to do is sit and watch how people interact, share their experiences and revel in their success.

I remember when I walked into the ancient city of Santiago de Compostela after I had completed my pilgrimage. I felt a massive sense of achievement, but at the same time, I was mostly overwhelmed with all of the emotions that were rushing through me.

So, I sat. I sat and I watched.

I sat for hours watching other pilgrims coming into the square to celebrate their own success at completing their respective journeys. I witnessed quiet celebrations of other solo walkers; I witnessed group celebrations and high-spirited singing; I watched how devotees to the Apostle St James fell to their knees in the square in front of the cathedral and prayed.

Some simply sat like I was. Just taking it all in.

You see, my USP is that I genuinely love it when other people succeed. It makes no difference to me who they are or where they have come from. I love seeing people achieve their goals.

It is also the one thing that spurs me on to my own goals. It’s a shared sense of success because I believe that we should all have it, in whatever shape or form success looks like to you.

2. When was a time you succeeded?

As far as I am concerned we succeed everyday.

For me, success doesn’t have to massive. It can be those little daily shifts forward, moving you into your ultimate power.

It can be as simple as being aware of a habit. It can be as epic as delivering your message to a large group of people. It can be writing your first line as an author or having your first book published.

All of those things are a success. So, when you are answering this particular question, don’t be harsh on yourself.

You succeed every day!

3. Make a list of things that you are very good at

This one is aimed directly at shifting your mindset into a place where you are celebrating and reiterating your self-worth.

Don’t be shy here! Make that list!

Remember, too, that this isn’t being arrogant when we celebrate our positive aspects of self. Arrogance is an exaggerated sense of self-worth that seeps into your behaviour.

This list reminds you of what you can always rely on and how you can trust yourself.

4. Think of a time when you overcame a difficult situation

All too often, when we are faced with a new challenge, our self-doubt steps in to tell us how difficult it is going to be.

Listen carefully to those words when they start to whisper in your head. Listen to what they are saying, and then debunk and replace them with that time you overcame a difficult situation.

It will be beneficial to make a list here, too, of all the things that might have been challenging to others where you have overcome that challenge. We all see and experience things so differently, and we can tend to diminish our courage because, in fact, it is a natural thing for us to do.

Over the years, I have had many people tell me how courageous I am for the things I have done. It is only when we reflect on those instances, which seemed quite normal at the time when we can acknowledge the incredible courage that we all have.

5. List your inner-strengths

I personally love this one!

If anything is going to get your self-worth into first gear, it is this list.

To get you started here are some examples of inner-strengths:

  • Wisdom
  • Kindness
  • Courage
  • Fairness
  • Trust
  • Tenacity
  • Curiosity
  • Resilience
  • Flexibility
  • Humanity
  • Justice
  • Community
  • Gratitude

….and the list goes on.

Keep these notes always close at hand as a reminder of your awesome power and magnificence.

As a reminder of your self-worth and all of the value, you have a duty to share with the world.

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The Power of Critical Thinking in our Fast-Paced World

In comparison to the well-known Greek philosopher Socrates, we have information sources at our fingertips. Every day we search all likes of questions under the sun, and in seconds we receive answers that span a great many subjects.

How do we consume all of this information? What is our responsibility for sharing it?

This information could be opinion, assumption, supposition or just plain fiction? Maybe it is factual, but where has it come from? Why is written? What is its purpose?

As it was so many years ago, as people were learning the art of thought, now more than ever, the skill of Critical Thinking is all the more important to everyone who digests new information.

The Socratic Method

This process established by Socrates is used to instil the Art of Critical Thinking. It is a method still used today in universities and learning institutions.

Using the form of an argumentive dialogue between students and individuals, questions are asked to which when answers are given, further questions are asked.

There are various forms of questions, which might have the receiver thinking very deeply about them, or immediately knowing the answer. Ultimately it is never to stop asking critical questions.

It is a question after question method.

What is Critical Thinking? How do we define it?

Wikipedia describes it as follows:

“Critical thinking is the analysis of facts to form a judgment. The subject is complex, and several definitions exist, which generally include the rational, sceptical, unbiased analysis or evaluation of factual evidence.”

To check my facts on the definition, I consulted Dictionary.com:

noun:

“Disciplined thinking that is clear, rational, open-minded and informed by evidence.”

The way I see it is as follows:

Critical Thinking is the ability to carefully assess and evaluate the information and then determining how to interpret it to make your final judgment.

It requires us to remove ourselves from our personal agenda, from our inherent point of reference and to look at the situation holistically.

Some other well-known critical thinkers:

  • Albert Einstein
  • Charles Darwin
  • Galileo Galilei
  • Martin Luther King
  • Nelson Mandela

There are no further mentions needed of the impact all of these people had on the course of history. When you think about it then, it does support why critical thought and the process involved is now more than ever, so very important.

A modern way of thinking and its benefits

For us all to be productive thinkers about the information we read or hear, we should be asking more questions. The next step is to then further assess everything around those answers.

The question after question process.

  • What’s happening here?
  • What am I seeing?
  • What am I reading?
  • How are other’s reacting to what is happening?
  • Where did this all start?
  • How do I feel about this?
  • Why am I feeling this way?

The benefits are such that we become more curious about our world and how we are impacting it. Our creative streaks are tweaked, and we will become better problem solvers.

The world could do with a load more problem solvers.

A framework of leading questions

If we use the following set of questions when confronted with new information, especially information that might be controversial or presented in such a way to elicit an immediate response, we could succeed in a group effort to make positive changes in our world.

Who?

The information we gather either benefit or does harm. The “who” question is, therefore a great first step on our way to thinking more critically.

  • Who is being harmed or benefitted by this information?
  • Who is this person or the entity involved in this story?

There is a decision-making process by all who create and disseminate information. Whether the information is created to cause a sale, a reaction, a swing in the vote or a call to action, for example, how that information is presented to us should always be carefully scrutinised for its underlying purpose.

This does not mean that we are critical of the presenter of this information. We might land up at that point, however, but initially, we are simply critical of our own thought process to gather all other relevant information properly.

Someone is usually always going to be impacted by the information you receive. It follows then that asking yourself who are the other key people involved.

  • Who are the stakeholders?
  • Who are the end-users?

Who are these people or organisations, and how are they affected by what you might be reading or hearing?

Where?

Now that we have a clear idea of who is involved in our story, where can we now find more information or evidence, if a story you are reading requires evidence, to corroborate our information we have at hand?

  • Where can additional information be found?
  • Where is this story unfolding?
  • Where are we going with this?
  • Where am I positioned here?
  • Where will I land up once I have taken action, or if I do nothing?

Why?

Knowing why the problem or situation exists and why it is relevant to me and to others set forth many more thought-provoking questions on our quest to think critically.

  • Why are we influenced by this?
  • Why do I care about this?
  • Why should I care?
  • Why am I different in my thought process to others?
  • Why is my point of reference more important than others?
  • Why are people affected by this?
  • Why am I not affected by this?

Most often these days, I ask myself “why have we allowed this thing to happen?”

It seems that we, the human race, continually cause our own problems and allow problems, issues and challenges to perpetuate. Since I always lean towards hope, though, as most of our problems are of our own making, we are in the best position to solve them too.

Knowing when to share information safely is achieved after you have asked yourself why other people should know about this. Even the most innocent of texts can have lasting effects.

Critical Thinking is about responsibility to ourselves and others. Discovering the “why” is another responsible step in the process.

What?

Making a positive change and providing value are two of my own personal values. To that end, what I can do to achieve these two things is my own leading question when I am thinking about “what”.

  • What can I do?
  • What should I do?
  • What should we be doing as a group?
  • What happens if I do this?
  • What happens if I don’t do this?

It often will have you assessing the most and least important aspects of the situation at hand and therefore establishing the best and worst-case scenario’s.

I have a project management qualification and learned about assessing what strengths and weaknesses exist. From here, discovering possible and workable alternatives are discovered, and since we mostly cause our own problems, we are now capable of efficiently resolving them too.

In Conclusion

South Africa is reported as being one of the countries with a high rate of corruption. Statistics provided by Transparency International scores South Africa a 44/100 as a rating on the Corruption Perception Index.

During the lockdown, a story was published on how local officials were stealing social grant packages. The story presented the bare-faced problem, which has long been a critical issue even before the pandemic.

The story published by Transparency International and submitted by South Africa’s local Corruption Watch encompassed everything around critical thinking. The Who, Where, Why and the What.

https://www.transparency.org/en/blog/in-south-africa-covid-19-has-exposed-greed-and-spurred-long-needed-action-against-corruption

The story is analytical of the statistics, it proposes solutions to problems, it gives a holistic view of the situation, and it easily presents ideas towards solutions.

This is the importance and power of critical thinking.

If used, it allows us to be more analytical of information, lends to our curiosity, supports strategic planning and most importantly, in my opinion, to solve our problems.

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Five Steps to Develop Your Entrepreneurial Mindset

If you are anything like me, I constantly wonder about the way some ultra-successful entrepreneurs think. I am on the same journey that they were on.

I am developing myself. I am working towards my own set of goals, my own hopes and dreams. I am always checking my thoughts and checking the actions that they are directed towards my business strategy.

It is constantly checking and rechecking of everything.

I think that we can agree, that it is a mindset that we as entrepreneurs develop.

The list we could make would be quite lengthy. So these five offer an insight into, what I think are the fundamental aspects of this mindset and thought process.

Without a doubt, an entrepreneurial mindset is continually and persistently developing.

  1. Being Committed to Action

Not too long ago, I became stuck. So stuck that when I woke up in the morning, even my normal routine was a challenge.

I knew that once I was finished with what I generally do every morning – a walk or swim; breakfast, a cup of coffee while reading emails of my subscriptions – that I had to carry on with my set tasks. The problem was, was that I didn’t know what to do.

Just this thing, is one of the most critical aspects of developing an entrepreneurial mindset.

You can never be in a frame of mind where you are stuck, static or inert. You have to be committed to action.

The only way you can get out of this place, which I would imagine is like the doldrums, is to just do something. Something towards your goal.

If that is rewatching a training video, reaching out to your mentor or to your community – just do something!

It is amazing that when you put action first, how that action leads to more doing and leads to more achieving.

2. If you are thinking of quitting, think again

There have been so many times that my stopping doing what I am doing has crept into my mind. It was on those occasions when things were not working, things got overwhelming and self-doubt started to creep in.

How was I ever going to achieve the success that I see so many others have achieved? What makes me so special?

I always go back to my “why”. My purpose, and why my dreams are so important to me now, at this time in my life.

The truth is that if I quit, I have to go back to what I was trying so hard to move away from. I would have to march to the beat of someone else’s drum.

So I have no other option but to continue, and if that is to continue against every single challenge, I am totally up for it!

Some of my ideas might not be so great, and maybe they don’t do as well as I would have hoped. Quit on those ideas to move onto the next, and the next, but never ever quit on yourself.

3. Take from other leaders, other mentors and relish their successes

I am in a community of entrepreneurs. It is common practice that we share our wins, and also share our losses.

Being honestly and gratefully happy for others success is the key to developing your own success. I believe this because when a success is shared, knowledge is shared.

When you listen and learn about how success is made, this makes your own journey so much easier to navigate. Likewise, when a loss is shared it is an opportunity to learn and to support others and so it is always a win-win situation.

4. Never stop learning

Read every day. Read how others have done it, how they overcame challenges, and understand their thought process around how they overcame challenges.

If you read often enough, the author’s thought process will become your own. It’s a cycle of bringing us back to a way of thinking. A mindset.

Learn about marketing. Learn how to recognise authentic messaging. Be innovative in your thought around your customers and who you are presenting your products to.

Your customers learn as quickly as you do, so keeping up with them is paramount for you to keep adding value to your marketing strategy.

5. Challenge yourself

With anything, when you set off on a new journey there are naturally going to be feelings of trepidation. As you progress you build confidence, and with this confidence you can trust and bet on yourself to rise to new challenges.

As you meet those challenges, your skills develop and then fear subsides. It is almost always fear that stops us in our tracks.

Be mindful of fear, and where your fear is coming from.

I love this quote by Nelson Mandela:

“It always seems impossible, until it is done”

Here are some other points to ponder and to develop an entrepreneurial mindset:

  • Have a clear vision
  • Always strive to add value first
  • Take a holistic view of challenges
  • Stay in the present
  • Plan for the future

To your success!

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The Pandemic Helped Me Re-Create My Future — and There Is Always Time To Do It.

In March earlier this year, I was eagerly planning my travels and was overcome with excitement at the mere thought of it.

It fed my soul, and I had lofty plans to spend the time blogging on my experiences and offering travel anecdotes to my prospective followers. I had walked the Camino de Santiago twice before, but I was going back a little wiser, with a whole new mindset and with a great shiny new career, ready and waiting to support me.

I was heading into the crux of my online existence, and nothing could stop me. I was packed to go, passport and visa ready, and armed with my iPhone ready to video my whole experience.

The crushing news hit me, and all my plans were not just postponed but canceled. We were being quarantined, and I had no plan on what to do next.

My first thought was to get closer to people who love me. I have never felt this driving force so intensely. So I packed a small travel bag and pushed my backpack and my passport and visa into the back of my cupboard.

We were in quarantine, and moving into a friend’s house to be surrounded by her two young boys turned out to be the best antidote to my sadness. It’s a place that I find solace.

It’s a place that I turn back into my youthful self and build lego and pretend that dinosaurs are still roaming the earth. It was a place that turned out that I could offer a helping hand too with some homeschooling and babysitting while parents tried to forge a productive working space in their home. Looking back on that, it turned out quite well.

Still in the back of my mind, the fact that the whole world lived out history in the making startled me. I am not afraid to admit it. I started reading all the news that was heading my way. Every single bit of it. I read intensively, and it was like I was making up for all the years of avoiding the news.

I was hoping beyond all hope that this situation was going to right itself. I quickly realized that I was in denial. It was an uncomfortable place to be, and I knew that I needed to stop and check things that I was reading and move into a more positive mind-frame to accept the situation that we were all in.

I stopped to think. I became far more introspective, and a notion came across me. It engulfed me like wildfire. What is this future that we were all holding onto, and how would this future change for us all?

It was, and still is, my belief that we could not expect to pick up from where we left off and head into the sunrise following the same trends. That’s naive to think that we can do that.

At the time, governments were changing laws to manage this new present. Finance houses and monetary funds were focusing on funding an unprecedented situation. Seasoned brokers were saying things that made it clear that this virus, and the result of it, had caught them all unaware.

It was talk of a global recession. Even more concerning, for me, at least, it demonstrated a changing world. Historically speaking humans are quite adaptable, yes, but no-one knew what was in store for us. We couldn’t plan for the future because our future was unknown. Everyone was being affected in some way.

Looking back on all of that now, and as we are slowly moving into our “normal” lives, despite news coming up of the dreaded “second wave,” I wonder if we might be missing our opportunity? Are we so desperate to go back to what we knew, our comfort zones, and not heed the lessons presented to us during the “lockdown”?

I don’t put myself out as a conservationist, but I care very deeply about the earth we all call home. From reports that we were given, some areas of the globe experienced a renewed energy. Pollution was down; gas emissions were lower, some wildlife even returned to areas they hadn’t been to in years. Penguins were walking around in the streets of Cape Town!

Aside from the good that came from our global quarantine, I think we can agree that the earth restoring itself to a small degree is a good thing, the projection of job losses and downsizing made for a very bleak 2020.

As the quarantine and lockdown progressed, we noticed small businesses, travel outlets, and service providers having to close their doors. Even the larger corporates had not come out unscathed, and downsizing and cutting back on hours seemed to be the talk of the day.

Unsurprisingly then, an article I read on the nature of e-commerce and digital marketing suggested that in the aftermath of COVID-19 and the unprecedented job losses and downsizing, this new digital lifestyle was and remains a saving grace.

It offered up a space for those subjected to downsizing, an opportunity to create a passive income, and closing the gap on their reduced salaries. It provided a haven for business owners who were adept at changing their focus into online products. It has offered those of us, who despite lofty plans at the beginning of the year for travel, an alternative to earn while learning some much-needed skills in the digital arena.

With “social distancing” being the buzz phrase, which is still being practiced worldwide, it supports this new online world and is an opportune time to get involved in this ‘not so new’ industry. If we must look at this with a positive mindset, and we must, it is not letting this crisis go to waste.

While the online world has been with us for some years, it’s a new mindset needed to take us all to the next level. Although some somber stories result from the pandemic, there are also some really uplifting accounts of experiences.

Dads have had the opportunity to play with their children because working from home has allowed them to do this. Mom’s have spent more quality time with their babies because they are close enough to do it.

Companies have enjoyed far more productive hours and input from their employees. More work hours have been given because no one has been subjected to time-wasting in traffic and unproductive face-to-face meetings. We all know about those!

Are these the lessons that we should be learning from this pandemic? Are we brave enough to be changing our “normal” into something that can be far more productive and far more enjoyable for us all?

For me, my focus is now, not just blogging and writing. I now can call myself a Digital Marketer. My hours spent in lockdown have not only been building lego and doing fun stuff. I spent my time honing skills. Learning from online entrepreneurs and investing in my self-development. It’s been about focusing on my lofty goals, despite at the beginning of quarantine being so afraid to look forward.

It’s been about creating my future, now.

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Home-based Business

5 Daily Habits of Leadership

While it might seem a dreary prospect to follow a daily routine, the power that this routine provides, and the good habits created, are incontrovertible. 

Some leading entrepreneurs and business people have their own specific routine, and these daily habits have set them up as leaders in their respective industries.

For me personally, I love Benjamin Franklin’s plans for self-improvement. On the road to being a business entrepreneur being a persistent student is key to a successful outcome. 

Elon Musk’s schedule of planning his day in five-minute blocks is something that I am going to implement to be even more effective in my management of time. 

Kevin Kruse, a Time Management expert has researched and found that top performers use time-blocks as opposed to To-Do-Lists to achieve the best possible outcome in the productivity of their days.

Habits and routines are of course very personal, but knowing how to put your best foot forward, and what critical tasks you need to accomplish to boost your business strategy, can set you up as a leader in your own niche. 

Here are five daily habits, that you could implement immediately.

Daily Habit 1 — Visualisation and meditation on your goals

Writing out a set of goals is only the first step to understanding what needs to be done in your vision for the future.

Action steps are of course critical to achieving your goals, but often these steps can become overwhelming. Self-doubt and negative talk creep in, especially if you are new to the entrepreneurial journey.

Visualizing and being in your future where your goals are already attained, solidifies your actions and bolsters your way forward. You remember your purpose and are able to pinpoint the reason for taking this journey in the first place.

It marks the way for your next step and builds the confidence you need when your journey is a path where you might be learning new skills.

Visualizing makes your goals a reality and not just a bunch of words on a piece of paper you have pasted on your wall above your desk.

Daily Habit 2 — Personal Development

Investing in yourself and your continuing growth is always money well spent. 

During my research, I read how entrepreneurs have failed on numerous occasions or have even lost their businesses completely. Because of the skills that they have learned though, those “failures” are literally like water from a duck’s back. 

It is the deep-seated knowledge and self-belief in their expertise and skill that puts them ahead of all others. It bolsters their performance and supports their daily drive towards their end-goal. 

It is also not just tangible skills that lead to the development of self. It is reading inspiring articles, and being prudent as to what you listen to and things you involve yourself in.

Self-development is not a destination, it is the ultimate journey, and having this item on your list of daily habits is a must.

I have this quote from Oprah Winfrey in clear view as I sit at my desk. It for me, highlights what self development is mostly about:

Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.”

Daily Habit 3 — Brainstorm and Mastermind with other Leaders and Mentors

I hear this often from my mentors that I learn from: 

“Read. Read some more, and then some more. Listen. Listen some more and then some more. Once you have done this, take action!” 

While you might be setting off on a journey that may be foreign to you, you can count on it that there are others who have already walked your path. They are the trailblazers who are making things happen in the same way you need to. Follow them. 

Read about their successes. Listen to their words of advice and act upon that advice. Participate actively in forums, and webinars and follow through on the lessons learned.

Being a perpetual student is not enough. Knowing that you have gained the knowledge and skills, and understanding a successful framework is just the first step. Acting on that knowledge is fundamental to the mastermind process. 

Even the most successful entrepreneurs have mentors and people they look up to. It is being a willing receptacle to learn and grow. 

Daily Habit 4 — Learn, Do, Teach

Leaders are self developers. As we are leaders, we also have an expectation that others are leaders in their own right too. 

As you have learned from your mentors and leaders, it is your responsibility to “pay it forward” by putting your new skill, or belief into action and teaching others to do the same.

It is potentially a life-changing and world-changing practice. 

Imagine a place where we are all learning from each other, putting into practice our new skills, and creating good habits everywhere?

Daily Habit 5 — Income-producing activity

As an entrepreneur, you are ultimately your own boss. 

We seldom answer to anyone else and thus, as my old dad used to say, we are responsible for pushing our own wheelbarrows. 

While we might not answer to others, we remain responsible to ourselves and to those around us who love and depend on us. Accordingly, an income-producing activity practiced every day must be on the list of daily good habits.

Placing an ad, writing an article, managing affiliate links, (if this is your strategy) and promoting your content, are habits that will ultimately have a positive effect on your income. 

Practicing these five daily habits might just be powerful enough to change your view of leadership. After all, it is not the position we lead from, but it is the mindset that we project that makes us leaders in our own right.

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Self Development

Take a stand for what’s in your heart

Socrates died for his beliefs. Ultimately, his heart determined his outcome and he stood up for his heart. He lived and died by his words.

“The unexamined life is not worth living.”

Socrates

Socrates believed that wisdom came from knowing oneself. It was a free-thinking, unorthodox, and unprecedented stance for the time, and laid the foundation for systems of logic and philosophy. After a military defeat of Athens, there was a rise in nationalism, and Socrates was put on trial for his beliefs. He was ultimately sentenced to death by hemlock, and it is told that he accepted his fate calmly.

There is a list of famous people, following Socrates who have stood up for what they had in their hearts, and for their beliefs. Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela to name a few. We can argue on the list of people, and their contributions but it’s unequivocal that these people had a mission and nothing was going to stand in their way in pursuing that mission.

Even us “common folk”, I believe, are forgers of a destiny. A magnificent place that we all dream of, and aspire too and nothing will stand in our way of achieving that dream. That’s my belief. My purpose has been defined by understanding a few simple things and understanding your own purpose, and what’s in your heart is as simple as one-two-three. That’s my belief.

What are you willing to give up, in pursuit of your dream?

This can be as simple as giving up a second cup of coffee if you dream of sleeping better at night. or putting aside sugar in your pursuit of a healthy physique. I use simple carefully though. It’s simple in theory but perhaps not so, in practice.

Would you give up your well-paying job to concentrate on developing your own business, around which you can structure a life of freedom? Freedom in this instance is how you plan your day. Being free to take your kids to school, attend their sporting events, or being completely present for them, as opposed to being tied into a corporate position. That type of freedom. You won’t die from this standpoint, but it will take some firm belief of your values, and sincere consideration for what’s in your heart.

When you need to find your courage, where does it come from?

Thinking back on Socrates, I think that his courage came firmly from his beliefs and what was right at the time. What we know now, is that he was a pioneer in forward thinking and regardless of whether he was supported in those beliefs he stood firm and found courage in his unwavering resolve.

It’s what sets your heart racing. It’s what you know to be true and just and what you would not waver from. It’s courage for someone you love and standing up for them when they can’t. It’s having a dream and relentlessly going after it.

Understanding where your courage comes from pinpoints your purpose and ultimately it sets free what’s in your heart.

Listening to your heart

Literally, when we are onto something and are having epiphanies, our heart rate increases. Listening becomes easier because you can feel it too. It skips a beat, it races, it flutters.

Roxette said it best:

Sometimes you wonder if this fight is worthwhile
The precious moments are all lost in the tide, yeah
They’re swept away and nothing is what is seems
The feeling of belonging to your dreams

Listen to your heart………….