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My Introversion Is My Superpower

Although, I never always thought that it was!

But hang on, before you think that this post is only for introverts, it’s not. This one is about limiting beliefs, and whether you are an introvert, extrovert or ambivert, we all have limiting beliefs – even if you don’t know it yet.

Back to my introversion:)

For so long, I believed that my introversion made me less valuable to the world at large.

When I reflect on my history, I wasn’t unhappy. I had a happy childhood, but I had this very limiting belief that my purpose was less important than the more extroverted people in my life.

The wonderful thing about that situation is that I was teaching myself resilience from a very early age. I really did get on with doing what made my heart happy.

Aha! There is the first power of my introversion!

An introvert in a big noisy family

I am the third child of four and the first daughter. I often wonder if that arrangement had some impact on my character as an introvert.

I am an early seventies baby too. Perhaps having a girl during this time, especially with two older brothers, might have been a perception that I didn’t need too much focus or personal development?

I do believe that my dad had a clear idea of what my future looked like to him. This idea was shared with me during a heated conversation with him shortly before his passing. He suggested that I get my life in order because, at my age, I should have a secure grounding with a family, a steady job and a house with a white picket fence.

Ok, he didn’t say the words “white picket fence”, but I thought it was inferred. Maybe because as he was giving me his life plan, I gazed out the window and there in front of his house, was in fact, that white picket fence.

I don’t want any assumptions about my relationship with my father by sharing this conversation. I share it only to demonstrate that each of us has a purpose. But even when we come from the same family, with shared interests, our purpose can be opposites of each other.

I often found my purpose and where my heart was to be opposites of others.

Until recently, this situation scared me.

I spent a great deal of my time at my grandparent’s house. It offered a quiet space with people who I loved dearly and who in turn loved me back. I loved my parents too, and we enjoyed a wonderful relationship, but the house was always a trove of activity. My father often referred to it as “Chaos Inn”.

To escape the noise and the hustle-bustle of our family home, I would often head off to “Gran”. I would arrive there after school and telephone my mom to let her know where I was.

Receiving my first bicycle was the first tool that I remember that I could use to manage my introversion. It meant that I had more freedom, and more importantly, the means, to go and hang out with my grandparents whenever I needed some quiet time.

My introversion grew with me.

I was a happy child, and I am now an extraordinarily happy adult, but I still often felt out of place.

Especially in a world that is mostly designed for extroverts.

My corporate career

It took a great deal of my energy and bravado to get through a day at the office. I was exposed to an open-plan design, and so many colleagues just dropping by my desk.

Not their fault, of course, that is how they are designed.

Similarly, my design as an introvert left me with very little energy at the end of the day. So when I wasn’t up for a drink out or socialising, I was often seen as the “party pooper.”

I started to become “ok” with this label.

Fantastically though, in this environment, I started to discover the amazing characteristics of the introverted personality. I first understood that introversion is fundamentally one thing – it’s how we use our energy. Secondly, I was just as capable and just as awesome as my more extroverted peers and colleagues.

As my career developed, I found myself in a wonderful position which included global travel. I felt like the luckiest person on the planet.

The pitfall, though, was that I would be responsible for a great deal of face-to-face training. Also, once a year, I was expected to train my colleagues at a mass event.

You can imagine my sheer panic!

Getting onto the plane for my first overseas business trip, I struggled as to how I would manage to speak in public. My brain went back and forth for the entire journey on what I was expected to do in the following week of meetings!

I was so scared!

As expected, there was a large turnout. My colleagues had come from all corners of the globe to listen to various updates that had taken place in the company.

I was in that line up to share updates on compliance training.

All my worry was well-placed because that trip turned out to be a massive failure!

I didn’t know the material well enough. I thought that I needed to be perfect. I thought I needed to know all of the answers.

However, what had the most profound impact on me was that I thought that a more extroverted person, you know, someone great at speaking, would be far better for the job.

I didn’t know how I was going to move forward and add value in this space that, at the time, offered me so much personal growth. I knew and understood this growth potential, but it didn’t stop me from grappling with the prospect of letting myself out of my shell.

In retrospect, this failure was really awesome feedback for me to start to work on my limiting beliefs.

We have to take on our limiting beliefs head on!

It was obvious that if I continued with my train of thought on who I was as an introvert, it would have a massively negative effect on my life in the future. 

So, it was time to take some positive steps towards my own personal development!

I considered how I got to that place, where I was. My inner place and my outer world that I was reacting to at the time.

This was the list I came up with. (I do love a checklist:)

  • Skills
  • Passion for adding value in the workspace
  • Integrity
  • A loving home that my parents created for me
  • Self-awareness

When I started to reflect on my positive attributes in my character, I realised that I had totally let myself down. I also realised that if I were hard on myself with this realisation of letting myself down, I would regress even further.

After all, I am just an introvert. I wasn’t then, and I am not now incompetent in any way.

Reclaiming power

This is how I did it.

1. Understanding my introversion;

2. Challenged my beliefs to move from fear to confidence;

3. Understanding what my real fears were – they come dressed up in all things;

3. Celebrated my daily wins;

4. I accepted actioning things when I was feeling uncomfortable before hand;

5. Engaging with my colleagues and peers with an intention to understand them. This was amazing because as you understand others, you understand so much more about yourself!

Taking responsibility for your mindset pays off

As I became more aware of my limiting beliefs and stamping them out as they arose, I noticed so many changes happening around me.

I received positive comments from stakeholders in the business who attended my training. How the training had made such sense; how my manner of speaking made the content more understandable.

Still today, that belief that they had in me, and those constructive words they shared with me, together with my own renewed self-belief always inspires and gives me strength when I need it.

An authentic introvert

For the first time I was showing up as an authentic introvert. I was an introvert in an environment where I completely understood my characteristics and started to enjoy them.

I didn’t pretend to be something that I was not, and I also didn’t feel “less” than anyone else.

Now in the present, my changed mindset has moved me into opportunities that I never knew existed. Had I succumbed to my limiting belief then, I shudder to think where I would be now.

It has led me into adventures that I would never have had, had I not embraced who I was, who I am, and believing that I could add value.

Even while at the same time being an introvert.

Challenge your beliefs

An unchallenged belief could be that hurdle that slows you down, or even worse, halts your forward trajectory.

Always be assessing your beliefs and your habits around these two questions:

  1. Does this belief help me move forward? or
  2. Does this belief hinder my progress?

And remember that we have thoughts that are shaped by our beliefs practically every second of the day.

Be aware of your thoughts, so that you can start the amazing journey towards shifting your beliefs.

If you are unsure of your personality traits, this free quiz will help you better understand what makes you tick. Finding out what makes you tick, is so brilliant!

https://www.16personalities.com/

Be awesome! Wherever your awesome comes from.

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Five Steps to Self-Worth

Oh, I have self belief in buckets, as I am sure that you do to!

However, consider those times when your resolve has been shaken. Perhaps your confidence has wavered a little as you are starting on a new venture, or you are setting off into the “unknown.”

Self-worth is described as one’s own value of being a human being. That’s pretty powerful when you think about it.

There was a time when I questioned my purpose. My direction had been set off-kilter, and I realised that my self-belief was very different to having a sense of self-worth.

These are the steps I used to get me to a place where I could support and emphasize my value that I had to share with the world:

  1. What is the one thing you can do better than anyone else?

This is that thing that makes us all unique. It is our USP – our Unique Selling Proposition.

We frame this question in this way so that it alters your mindset from the get-go.

For my whole life, I have tended to be a “people watcher.” One of my favourite things to do is sit and watch how people interact, share their experiences and revel in their success.

I remember when I walked into the ancient city of Santiago de Compostela after I had completed my pilgrimage. I felt a massive sense of achievement, but at the same time, I was mostly overwhelmed with all of the emotions that were rushing through me.

So, I sat. I sat and I watched.

I sat for hours watching other pilgrims coming into the square to celebrate their own success at completing their respective journeys. I witnessed quiet celebrations of other solo walkers; I witnessed group celebrations and high-spirited singing; I watched how devotees to the Apostle St James fell to their knees in the square in front of the cathedral and prayed.

Some simply sat like I was. Just taking it all in.

You see, my USP is that I genuinely love it when other people succeed. It makes no difference to me who they are or where they have come from. I love seeing people achieve their goals.

It is also the one thing that spurs me on to my own goals. It’s a shared sense of success because I believe that we should all have it, in whatever shape or form success looks like to you.

2. When was a time you succeeded?

As far as I am concerned we succeed everyday.

For me, success doesn’t have to massive. It can be those little daily shifts forward, moving you into your ultimate power.

It can be as simple as being aware of a habit. It can be as epic as delivering your message to a large group of people. It can be writing your first line as an author or having your first book published.

All of those things are a success. So, when you are answering this particular question, don’t be harsh on yourself.

You succeed every day!

3. Make a list of things that you are very good at

This one is aimed directly at shifting your mindset into a place where you are celebrating and reiterating your self-worth.

Don’t be shy here! Make that list!

Remember, too, that this isn’t being arrogant when we celebrate our positive aspects of self. Arrogance is an exaggerated sense of self-worth that seeps into your behaviour.

This list reminds you of what you can always rely on and how you can trust yourself.

4. Think of a time when you overcame a difficult situation

All too often, when we are faced with a new challenge, our self-doubt steps in to tell us how difficult it is going to be.

Listen carefully to those words when they start to whisper in your head. Listen to what they are saying, and then debunk and replace them with that time you overcame a difficult situation.

It will be beneficial to make a list here, too, of all the things that might have been challenging to others where you have overcome that challenge. We all see and experience things so differently, and we can tend to diminish our courage because, in fact, it is a natural thing for us to do.

Over the years, I have had many people tell me how courageous I am for the things I have done. It is only when we reflect on those instances, which seemed quite normal at the time when we can acknowledge the incredible courage that we all have.

5. List your inner-strengths

I personally love this one!

If anything is going to get your self-worth into first gear, it is this list.

To get you started here are some examples of inner-strengths:

  • Wisdom
  • Kindness
  • Courage
  • Fairness
  • Trust
  • Tenacity
  • Curiosity
  • Resilience
  • Flexibility
  • Humanity
  • Justice
  • Community
  • Gratitude

….and the list goes on.

Keep these notes always close at hand as a reminder of your awesome power and magnificence.

As a reminder of your self-worth and all of the value, you have a duty to share with the world.

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Four Reasons why your “Why” will shift your Mindset!

I like to call it “The Why Factor”

I am going to head straight into those four reasons. Here goes!

  1. Your why is a warrior for that horrid doubt monster.
  2. Your why shakes up those unhelpful patterns taking place in your mind.
  3. Your why helps you set clear intentions.
  4. Your why, will always be that go-to place for action.

I am fortunate enough to be in a business network group with awesome online entrepreneurs who are encouraged to explore and reinforce their “why”.

The reason that they are in business; the reason they get up in the morning; and the reason that pushes them forward despite all odds.

It’s a super-powerful exercise, and when we read each other’s “whys” it fills you with such joy and commitment to your own audacious goals.

I would say that for me, it has been the single most robust strategy to my online growth. We must all keep growing.

It quietens the doubt monster.

If you are anything like me, doubt creeps in from time to time. I sit and ponder on what might have been an easier decision. I ask myself whether I should simply return to a life of the 9 to 5.

When I think about the logistics of returning to my “old life” it fills me with such fear, because today I am ultimately living my life aligned with my core values. It’s a life where my huge goals can in fact be achieved.

This fills my heart with gratitude, just writing about it.

I have my “why” posted in clear view. I can see it every day and when that nasty doubt monster starts creeping in, I think of my “why”.

The warrior in me comes to the surface and slays that doubt!

Let’s talk about “unhelpful” patterns

As a mindset coach, I am fully aware of unhelpful patterns in my state of mind. Yes, we all go through those states of anger, fear, grief, self-doubt to name a few.

The trick though is not to wallow in those states, and not to hang around in those unresourceful moments. What I find useful, is to accept the state for what it is, understand the reasons for being in that state, and then ask what state would be best for me to make the situation easier.

“What state would be best for me to make this situation easier?”

An exceptionally powerful question to ask yourself.

Even more incredible is to ask yourself this question and refer back to your big, bold and fearless “why”.

This combination will relight your fire inside and get you into superhero state!

Setting clear intentions based on your “why” will always get you over challenging hurdles

My intention is clear and sharp simply because it has it’s foundation in my “why”.

If you were asked the question in a certain circumstance, for example, scaling your online business, your “why factor” helps you become clear on your intentions. Moving forward from there, your intentions clarify and create our reality.

Dr Wayne Dyer coined that phrase. “Our intention creates our reality”, and I firmly believe it.

Taking action is far easier when you have a “why”

What would you act on, if you didn’t have a reason to?

If you intention was unclear, how would you take purposeful action?

Your “why” is ultimately congruent with all of your business efforts, and if it is bold enough it will permeate into everything that you stand for in your life. Taking action then almost becomes like second nature.

So, never underestimate the almighty power of your “why”. It will keep you moving, even when it is difficult to do so. It will keep you on point, even when all around you the noise is deafening, and it will take you to a place that is wonderful and rewarding.

It’s a place we all deserve.

Are you ready to head into your power?

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What’s all this hype about NLP?

In a phrase; it can changes lives.

In the most profound way too. Let me tell you why, but first, some basic details about what this is.

Warning! No scientific evidence!

At least none that I could find.

This claim of mine, that it can change lives, is based only on stories that I have heard and my own experiences with this process.

So, I don’t blame you for shaking your head and scrolling to a blog post that will resonate better with you.

However, if you do stick around, I think that you will see the very basic principle around this process and you could find yourself at least seeing the possibilities for change.

Neuro Linguistic Programming in a nutshell

N = Neuro = how we process the world through our senses;

L = Linguistic = how we explain or communicate our experiences and give those experiences meaning;

P = Programming = simply put, our habits; the sequence of actions we take on a daily basis; or the motivation to achieve our goals

How does it work?

I think that we would all agree that on occasions, our moods can be completely unhelpful to us or a situation looming.

I am reminded of so many times when all I needed to do was take a step back and look at myself. Instead, I lashed out to fuel a bad situation, only serving to make it worse.

I myself am not an unresourceful person – I simply only have times when unresourceful moods crop up.

This is exactly when the NLP process is used.

It’s about changing states – changing your mood

You obviously need to start recognising your unhelpful moods.

For me, I am very aware when I am procrastinating, which in fact is the second state for me because it was the initial state of fear that put me into the downward spiral of “procrastination”

When you have made yourself aware of these “bad moods” recognise the things you are looking at, the things you are listening to and what you are doing?

Be aware that those things might be keeping you in the lower mood, and then ask yourself:

“What mood would be much more helpful to me right now?”

I use this technique when I am finding my courage.

I always seem to be finding it through consistent action and self-belief. At the same time, I am in communities that are helping me and supporting my beliefs and my core values. I listen to good news stories and my action fuels my onward and upward trajectory.

How do you speak to yourself ?

I am a natural introvert. I must say that I am not held back by this characteristic of my personality, in fact, I believe that it is where my power lies.

I mention my introversion because I tend to be in my mind very often. This can be good, or bad, depending on the language I am using with myself.

Having learned the quiet nuances of NLP, I speak to myself with far more kindness. I speak to myself as I would to my best friend. I do give myself some very sound and stern advice on occasion, but it is always from a place of love.

Identity statements are an excellent way to train your mind into new habits and the language we use:

“I’m a leader”

“I’m confident”

“I’m loved”

“I’m worthy”

“I’m all that I need”

Try out a few powerful identity statements on yourself. Put them on post-it note to remind yourself of your awesomeness, your power and your magnificence.

Remember, it is only your mood that sets you back.

Our habits

There is an awesome quote by Margaret Thatcher:

How right she is!

It’s the habit loop that creates our daily processes.

What you do first thing in the morning. What you do when you jump in your car to drive to work. What you do the first thing you arrive home.

How often have you driven to work, and when you arrive you are not really sure how you got there? It’s a process in your habit loop, so it becomes second nature.

Often you just drive with your mind in neutral.

To change our bad habits we need to recognise the trigger. These triggers might be people, things or events.

Then we need to see what “reward” we are receiving from that bad habit.

The key is in changing our routine around that bad habit. Initially, it is going to feel very uncomfortable, but like the old habit you are going to break with this process, it will eventually start to feel very normal and become easier.

As we train our bodies, we can too train our minds and our habits.

When I start a swimming regime or a walking pattern or change it up to a longer distance, it always feels very uncomfortable.

As you know though, as we practice we become better at that activity. It is about a sequence of actions that we take towards our goals.

It is no different to how we see the world around us, how we speak to ourselves and being aware of the moods that do not serve us.

So, using the simple practices of NLP can change our lives. We only have to be mindful of our states and when we need to change them towards our greater good.

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I Am Stronger Than Anything That My Body Throws At Me

“Hello,” the doctor said, referring to me playfully as the “lady with the interesting pelvis. I got up from the chair and greeted him back. “Hi Doc, how is the new year treating you?”

In 2019, I achieved one of my biggest goals. On two prosthetic hips, I walked the Camino de Santiago, and after a few fits and starts, I walked into Santiago de Compostela’s ancient city. Maybe “walked” is not quite correct. I have a penguin-like gait, so maybe wobble is more accurate.

Today, the 17th February 2021, I was sitting in my orthopaedic’s consulting room to get a check-up on my two prosthetics and some guidance on a strange and excruciating new pain that I had developed in my right leg.

I had just had my first MRI. Seriously, I would never wish that experience on anyone! I know all of you who have no issues with claustrophobia are probably snickering right now. Still, when I was slowly shifted down that tiny tube, it was then that I could imagine what my late brother had felt like when he was undergoing treatment for brain cancer. I only had to do this once. He went every week, for a similar experience of being laid out in a small space with his head covered in a mask, which reminded me of the one Hannibal Lecter wore. I lay feeling overwhelmed in what felt like a very tiny space and put my mind to thinking of better things.

I was back on Camino. Smelling the fresh crispness of the Spanish countryside. Listening to the beautiful noise of nature. Hearing the stones crushing under my boots. It reminded me of why I have been doing what I have been doing these past months. Setting up my own online business, because being on pilgrimage is now all I want to do.

With this new pain that had crept up, would my dreams be dashed?

Before my two hip replacements, I had two triple osteotomies on each hip in my early twenties. It seems that when I was born, and as I grew, my pelvis hadn’t shifted into a place to give my hips and legs enough support. In my early teens, I developed excruciating leg aches, which led to these two intricate operations needing to be done. There is a more medical explanation for it, but this is the gist of it.

When I came around to have hip replacements, the modified pelvis on the right side was tricky for the skilled surgeon to install the prosthetic, so my right side and leg are slightly prejudiced. If you can imagine a pirate, and how he might have hobbled along on the makeshift peg-leg — that’s me.

The funny thing is that I have absolutely no pain in my hips whatsoever! All four operations that I had changed my life for the better. Nature didn’t stop there with me, though, because I also have degenerative bones in my spine’s base. It is now this that is creating this weird numbness and intense pain in my right calf and foot. Anyway, I now have to see a neurosurgeon.

I am sharing this story because today, I feel more powerful than ever! Aside from the pain that I have, my purpose and my goal is pushing me forward. I am entering a new phase in my online journey, and I have never been more determined to move forward to a place of success. So, to hell with my bones and my history of operations on them, I will not be deterred.

My purpose has been clear to me from the day I sat on that patio while I was on a pilgrimage. It was a day of epiphanies and understanding. Understanding that I had my own values that I needed to start aligning my life with. It was the perfect time to make the changes that I needed to make.

I have an ambitious goal to walk another 25 Camino’s. I am putting this out there because last night I questioned whether this would be possible. I quickly checked my negative thought and reminded myself that:

We are, and have everything that we need; our unchecked thoughts only limit us.

I am reminded of the depth and tenacity of the human spirit of adventurers, trailblazers and explorers, like Renan Ozturk and Mark Inglis. Renan suffered a massive and debilitating accident which could have ended his life. Still, in a short time afterwards, he had rehabilitated himself to summit the technical and challenging climb of Meru. Likewise, Mark Inglis had previously lost both of his legs to frostbite, and against all odds successfully summited Mount Everest. There are many others who despite physical challenges, break barriers towards their own greatness.

Undoubtedly it is a purpose that pushes us forward. Those goals that are clearly set and now burn a hole into your heart, so much so that when you think of going back, it scares you to the core. It’s that what gets you up in the morning; it’s what sets your soul on fire, and gives you courage when you didn’t know that you could even be so brave.

Find your purpose. Embrace it, and don’t be afraid to go after it!

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Five Fabulous Tips For A “Success Mindset”

It is not easy to watch everyone else crushing their goals, and you feel like an absolute failure. I have often wondered why I struggle into things, where I would much rather be feeling supercharged and courageous for my efforts.

When I really get into my own thought process, I often find that I am only harsh on myself. The truth is that I have enjoyed a great deal of success, and the reality is that I will continue doing so. This is a belief of mine, but I have to spend some time reminding myself of this belief on some days.

It’s weird, I know. One thing I have learned is that a mindset is not an entrenched feeling. It is more like a sweeping changing tide which has its ebbs and flows. One day I might be feeling on top of the world, whereas on another, I am struggling to keep focus.

If you are anything like me, you will have your own special techniques to keep your physical energy in synch with your brain. I do these things when I am feeling low on spirit, and so far they have worked to jolt me back into a state of flow.

  1. Reframe Your Mind’s Stories

As an online entrepreneur, I am in an extremely vibrant and competitive space. Others have come before me, and they have made magnificent changes in their lives.

It is quite normal to compare yourself to those online guru’s but mind your brain when it starts using a comparison to dig at your (perceived) lack of success. Rather, use those times when you see other successes to be an inspiration to know that it’s all very possible for you too. And it is!

Remember that your past challenges are building blocks preparing you for your onward trajectory, and are not stumbling blocks for you to be afraid to try things again. Your life experiences all be they completely unrelated to your current path are what have made you who you are.

Embrace these things to get you moving ahead.

2. Make a List of Achievements

This is such a worthful exercise to do. Once you have your list, please put it in a place where you can see them every day. Focus on these things, because they are positive, and don’t ever forget how you felt when you achieved those things.

I struggle with being visible. In this online world, you have to engage with people because otherwise, you are just a photo on the screen—another photo in the scrolling process.

To help me here, I remind myself of my past life, training groups of people. It was so outside of my comfort zone at the time, but I was committed to the process, and after just doing it, I found myself gaining more and more confidence. The more confidence I gathered, the better I became.

In fact, I found myself loving it too!

3. Identify and Make a List of Your Strengths

Spend some productive time doing this exercise, and you will find that it is not a static list either. As you grow and develop, you find more interesting things about yourself, and eventually, your list increases with your self-development.

If you struggle in this exercise, think about what you are really good at. Even the smallest things can be a catalyst to a complete brainstorm on your strengths.

You might be a great listener. Perhaps you have a knack of communicating in difficult situations. Maybe you are a natural problem-solver. Could you have empathy with others when others don’t? Can you trust completely in a process, or you might be an intrepid adventurer.

4. Always Be In Integrity With Yourself

I love this one. Although often it is the hardest one to achieve.

One of my strengths is my integrity. I say what I mean, and I mean what I say. I don’t always use my words, but when I do, I mean them wholeheartedly.

I try to choose my words wisely in all instances, but one thing I can say is when those words come out, and my actions follow them, they are sincere at that time.

There is seldom a situation when I reflect on it that I think I should have behaved differently. The reason for this is that I act in honesty. I have to admit that I have been in trouble on a few of these occasions.

Being in integrity with yourself is critical to achieving a success mindset. It will have you set out your priorities, your needs and your vision for your future.

It could also have you moving away from people who you might not feel 100% comfortable with. In contrast, gravitating to people who share your goals, your vision of your future success and who will hold you accountable to your goals.

Integrity to yourself is often difficult because it requires hard decisions to be made. However, when you think about it, those who matter won’t mind your decisions here.

5. Be Accountable

For the solo entrepreneur, we often have to have our own little staff meetings with ourselves. This might sound slightly strange, but I have started to implement this, and every morning after visualising my goals, I am in a “staff meeting.”

I must tell you, some of my staff are just terrible!

Since I am the copywriter, the student, the content creator, the money generator if something hasn’t been done from the day before, that particular department gets a dressing down! Haha..being accountable is always going to be something that we strive for, I believe.

If you are honest with yourself and understand that keeping a focus on your diary might be a challenge, finding an accountability partner is an option.

I have written this very thing down for my HR manager to address. (Note to self Robyn!)

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Five Steps to Develop Your Entrepreneurial Mindset

If you are anything like me, I constantly wonder about the way some ultra-successful entrepreneurs think. I am on the same journey that they were on.

I am developing myself. I am working towards my own set of goals, my own hopes and dreams. I am always checking my thoughts and checking the actions that they are directed towards my business strategy.

It is constantly checking and rechecking of everything.

I think that we can agree, that it is a mindset that we as entrepreneurs develop.

The list we could make would be quite lengthy. So these five offer an insight into, what I think are the fundamental aspects of this mindset and thought process.

Without a doubt, an entrepreneurial mindset is continually and persistently developing.

  1. Being Committed to Action

Not too long ago, I became stuck. So stuck that when I woke up in the morning, even my normal routine was a challenge.

I knew that once I was finished with what I generally do every morning – a walk or swim; breakfast, a cup of coffee while reading emails of my subscriptions – that I had to carry on with my set tasks. The problem was, was that I didn’t know what to do.

Just this thing, is one of the most critical aspects of developing an entrepreneurial mindset.

You can never be in a frame of mind where you are stuck, static or inert. You have to be committed to action.

The only way you can get out of this place, which I would imagine is like the doldrums, is to just do something. Something towards your goal.

If that is rewatching a training video, reaching out to your mentor or to your community – just do something!

It is amazing that when you put action first, how that action leads to more doing and leads to more achieving.

2. If you are thinking of quitting, think again

There have been so many times that my stopping doing what I am doing has crept into my mind. It was on those occasions when things were not working, things got overwhelming and self-doubt started to creep in.

How was I ever going to achieve the success that I see so many others have achieved? What makes me so special?

I always go back to my “why”. My purpose, and why my dreams are so important to me now, at this time in my life.

The truth is that if I quit, I have to go back to what I was trying so hard to move away from. I would have to march to the beat of someone else’s drum.

So I have no other option but to continue, and if that is to continue against every single challenge, I am totally up for it!

Some of my ideas might not be so great, and maybe they don’t do as well as I would have hoped. Quit on those ideas to move onto the next, and the next, but never ever quit on yourself.

3. Take from other leaders, other mentors and relish their successes

I am in a community of entrepreneurs. It is common practice that we share our wins, and also share our losses.

Being honestly and gratefully happy for others success is the key to developing your own success. I believe this because when a success is shared, knowledge is shared.

When you listen and learn about how success is made, this makes your own journey so much easier to navigate. Likewise, when a loss is shared it is an opportunity to learn and to support others and so it is always a win-win situation.

4. Never stop learning

Read every day. Read how others have done it, how they overcame challenges, and understand their thought process around how they overcame challenges.

If you read often enough, the author’s thought process will become your own. It’s a cycle of bringing us back to a way of thinking. A mindset.

Learn about marketing. Learn how to recognise authentic messaging. Be innovative in your thought around your customers and who you are presenting your products to.

Your customers learn as quickly as you do, so keeping up with them is paramount for you to keep adding value to your marketing strategy.

5. Challenge yourself

With anything, when you set off on a new journey there are naturally going to be feelings of trepidation. As you progress you build confidence, and with this confidence you can trust and bet on yourself to rise to new challenges.

As you meet those challenges, your skills develop and then fear subsides. It is almost always fear that stops us in our tracks.

Be mindful of fear, and where your fear is coming from.

I love this quote by Nelson Mandela:

“It always seems impossible, until it is done”

Here are some other points to ponder and to develop an entrepreneurial mindset:

  • Have a clear vision
  • Always strive to add value first
  • Take a holistic view of challenges
  • Stay in the present
  • Plan for the future

To your success!

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Self Development

It’s not personal, it’s just business

How many times did you hear that in the Godfather series? It becomes very personal though, when the tables are turned, so it leaves me with one question. Can you separate the “personal” from your business?

Investing in my dreams

For me, my journey into entrepreneurship is VERY personal. I arrived at this point in my life, with gusto to live with purpose and to bring my dreams to fruition. It was to put my passion into my daily life and align my beliefs and values with my career, and to hopefully inspire others to find this wonderful place too. It wasn’t a slight decision that I made to try this venture out. I am invested. It’s completely personal to me.

Is an attack on your business, an attack on you?

While we are creating our own wonderful place, there are obviously going to be people who simply don’t share our ideas. The superpower that all entrepreneurs have to have then, is to be able to deflect attacks and nay-sayers and not take these comments and actions personally.

The bare truth of it is that not all people are going to like us, or our product or services. That is just how it is. Instead of being disheartened by this, we should be using this an opportunity to grow and learn and to redefine our reactions to these negative instances. It is after all, not a personal attack on you. It is what you have to accept in business.

Disappointment leading to lack of action

A friend called me out on seeing things too simply. There were harsh words used and my original comment was seen as “offensive”. If you have been in a situation where your belief is called into question, you will understand that we can react in two ways. We are either lashing out in defense or we are pausing to assess their point of reference.

Either way, there is always a painful tinge of disappointment that creeps in. I mean, we are personally invested, it’s our beliefs that push us forward to create what we think is an amazing venture.

It is then, what we do with that disappointment that is most important. It can stunt us and prevent us from taking further action, or it can propel us forward, hopefully with a lesson learned.

Can we separate personal from the business then?

Undoubtedly we are emotionally connected to our businesses. It is then about rising above those nay-sayers and what we see as personal attacks and moving forward despite the disappointment we are feeling.

It is about taking those negative feelings that come out of those comments and realigning ourselves with our purpose and the reason why we even set out on this journey. It is remembering that there are going to be hills and valleys along the journey, but it is on the in-between days when our most productive work is accomplished.

Pilgrimage and Entrepreneurship

I often think of my pilgrimage to Santiago de Compostela in the same way as I see my journey into entrepreneurship. There were horrible hills and on the way up, it was dreadful. The summit was the prize and looking down on my accomplishment, I was filled with hope for the journey forward. The downhills were often just as bad as the way up, but it was on those days across flat terrain, that I made the most progress.

It’s always personal. It is a personal journey but it doesn’t have to be personalized. It is being immune and remembering that in the words of Don Miguel Ruiz, the author of The Four Agreements about not taking anything personally:

“Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dreams. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

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Home-based Business Self Development

How you do one thing, is how you do everything?

The origin of this phrase is uncertain. Simon Sinek has attributed it to Zen Buddhism, which when you think about it, makes sense. Simplistically speaking, Zen favors knowledge through spiritual practice, and not only an understanding of texts. In practice then, one thing done will lead to how everything is done.

In business, this belief could be seen from two very different perspectives. One perspective is mediocrity and the other, over-analysis leading to inaction.

Mediocrity

There are going to be tasks on your to-do list that have an unequal priority. While all tasks should all be in place to bolster your business strategy and move towards your business goals, there will always be things that are more important than others.

Say, for example, you are working on an email. In this email, you are outlining your new product launch and in error, a few typos creep in. We all know, and have experienced the good and the bad of “autocorrect”. In any event, your email goes live, and some customers note these typos and in their judgment, they see you as a mediocre business person. If you communicate like this with errors, where else in your business will errors show up? How you do one thing, is how you do everything.

Of course, in other areas of your business, you have focused more time on the actual product, for example. You have nurtured and developed it and while we all strive to perfection, there comes a time for action.

Over-analysis leading to inertia

Your product is developed and you are ready to introduce it to the world. You sit down to write your advert copy, and you become so over analytic, so obsessed with the perfection of the content, that you become inert and miss your deadline. How you do anything, is how you do everything.

If you do one thing perfectly, then everything is weighed to that standard if you are living in complete alignment with this phrase. The question therefore is, can living by this phrase be possible?

Finding a workable balance

This is a time for greatness. We all need to the better and strive towards bigger things. Especially if we are looking to change our lives and the lives of others. In our endeavor to look for the best ways to add value, we might in some instances, cut a few corners. Is this us accepting mediocrity?

In order to find a balance between “how we do one thing, is how we do everything” and becoming inactive because we over analyse everything, is to check how our business goals are aligned with this very powerful mindset. It is to understand our deadlines and our agreed upon milestones and what our success will really look like.