Oh, I have self belief in buckets, as I am sure that you do to!
However, consider those times when your resolve has been shaken. Perhaps your confidence has wavered a little as you are starting on a new venture, or you are setting off into the “unknown.”
Self-worth is described as one’s own value of being a human being. That’s pretty powerful when you think about it.
There was a time when I questioned my purpose. My direction had been set off-kilter, and I realised that my self-belief was very different to having a sense of self-worth.
These are the steps I used to get me to a place where I could support and emphasize my value that I had to share with the world:
- What is the one thing you can do better than anyone else?
This is that thing that makes us all unique. It is our USP – our Unique Selling Proposition.
We frame this question in this way so that it alters your mindset from the get-go.
For my whole life, I have tended to be a “people watcher.” One of my favourite things to do is sit and watch how people interact, share their experiences and revel in their success.
I remember when I walked into the ancient city of Santiago de Compostela after I had completed my pilgrimage. I felt a massive sense of achievement, but at the same time, I was mostly overwhelmed with all of the emotions that were rushing through me.
So, I sat. I sat and I watched.
I sat for hours watching other pilgrims coming into the square to celebrate their own success at completing their respective journeys. I witnessed quiet celebrations of other solo walkers; I witnessed group celebrations and high-spirited singing; I watched how devotees to the Apostle St James fell to their knees in the square in front of the cathedral and prayed.
Some simply sat like I was. Just taking it all in.
You see, my USP is that I genuinely love it when other people succeed. It makes no difference to me who they are or where they have come from. I love seeing people achieve their goals.
It is also the one thing that spurs me on to my own goals. It’s a shared sense of success because I believe that we should all have it, in whatever shape or form success looks like to you.
2. When was a time you succeeded?
As far as I am concerned we succeed everyday.
For me, success doesn’t have to massive. It can be those little daily shifts forward, moving you into your ultimate power.
It can be as simple as being aware of a habit. It can be as epic as delivering your message to a large group of people. It can be writing your first line as an author or having your first book published.
All of those things are a success. So, when you are answering this particular question, don’t be harsh on yourself.
You succeed every day!
3. Make a list of things that you are very good at
This one is aimed directly at shifting your mindset into a place where you are celebrating and reiterating your self-worth.
Don’t be shy here! Make that list!
Remember, too, that this isn’t being arrogant when we celebrate our positive aspects of self. Arrogance is an exaggerated sense of self-worth that seeps into your behaviour.
This list reminds you of what you can always rely on and how you can trust yourself.
4. Think of a time when you overcame a difficult situation
All too often, when we are faced with a new challenge, our self-doubt steps in to tell us how difficult it is going to be.
Listen carefully to those words when they start to whisper in your head. Listen to what they are saying, and then debunk and replace them with that time you overcame a difficult situation.
It will be beneficial to make a list here, too, of all the things that might have been challenging to others where you have overcome that challenge. We all see and experience things so differently, and we can tend to diminish our courage because, in fact, it is a natural thing for us to do.
Over the years, I have had many people tell me how courageous I am for the things I have done. It is only when we reflect on those instances, which seemed quite normal at the time when we can acknowledge the incredible courage that we all have.
5. List your inner-strengths
I personally love this one!
If anything is going to get your self-worth into first gear, it is this list.
To get you started here are some examples of inner-strengths:
….and the list goes on.
Keep these notes always close at hand as a reminder of your awesome power and magnificence.
As a reminder of your self-worth and all of the value, you have a duty to share with the world.